Sunday, March 12, 2006

It's true

I write this in bed, in my sleeping bag, under three blankets and under my duvet. I'm a voiceless mess. I suppose this is why they tell you not to get out of bed until you feel better when you have the flu, but hey - who said I ever did what I was told? Anyway that's not why I'm writing this, it's a spur of the moment thing and I had to get out of bed and go all the way over to my desk to get this laptop so it better be worth it.

I want equality for women, don't get me wrong, but this post may not live up to my feminist reputation - or maybe it does - I'm not entirely sure what constitutes feminism now. I have probably said a million times that I didn't want any guy to protect me, I said that I could do it myself and certainly didn't need any tall, dark and handsome to watch out for me. Yeah that was rubbish, what the hell was I talking about? The truth is I do want to be protected, of course I do, I think everyone does really - whether they admit it or not is neither here nor there.

I might also have said that there was no way that I would ever cook, clean or tidy up after a guy. Well anyone who met me will know that I do tidy up and I do clean, and I do - sadly - enjoy it. I would quite happily clean the house and obviously I would never ask the guy to wash up - he might not do it right - just like he might not keep everything straight or in tidy piles. I have to have it tidy, so would be more than content to do this on behalf of a man. Actually it would just be to make sure it got done.

But the thing is I would do exactly the same for one of my female friends, in fact I do - I do start tidying their rooms and asking their parents if the washing up needs to be done, so it's really equality. The fact that I'm willing to do it for a guy just shows that I'm doing the same as I do for girlfriends. It's providing for people, I like providing for people - I don't see why I ever thought I wouldn't do it for a guy when I'd willingly help out my best girlfriend. What can I say? I don't think things through sometimes.

That's pretty much all I had to say really, in fact I didn't even really need to say that, but it was quite a revelation for me so I felt the urge to share it with y'all. :-)

12 comments:

keir said...

Your quite right, feminism isnt about uniformity, its about equality. Its no about whether you do the washing up, its about whether you are forced or expected to do it because fo your gender. It makes you no less of a feminist that you do.

Stagestruckgal said...

exactly my point. equality for women. and also, just to put my point across, men always moan about women moaning at them about something. however, most women need to show their emotions, (we are in touch with them unlike some guys, no implications!) and they do show them, but men just dont listen and put it down to ranting. i would just like to say, our rants generally have an important point to them, and that we need to talk about that important point, whether it may be about what to have for dinner tomorrow night or the financial situation within a marriage. phew. that feels better. equality for women is what its all about.

keir said...

You imply that women rant more than men, i dont think thats true

Stagestruckgal said...

well, as a bloke, i suppose you would know. but i still think that women rant more than men to let their true feelings out and share them.

Stagestruckgal said...

btw, i hope you're feeling better, Niki, its awful having the flu. :( xx

Nodders said...

You're very right Niki, the need to feel protected is universal and not exclusive to a specific group, and that there is a balance in the two. Choice over expectation as I believed you pointed out is what we should strive for.

Laura, you talk bollocks sometimes. You certainly are a credit to your own example of women ranting, but as for men not showing they're feelings, thats just balls. My male friends are some of the most forward and open people I know, the girls that I know are generally the ones that need pushing to reveal what they think. I'm not saying that this point is true for every male/female, I'm just saying your generalisation is untrue.

Niki said...

Keir said I was right!
I'm back at college now, feeling much better thanks Laura.
I'll just leave you lot to carry on with your little discussion...
Although I will agree with Gordon that in general a lot of girls I know, including myself at times, need pushing more than some guys to express themselves.
Unfortunately when I try to rant it ends up going in circles, so I just do it in my head now...

Lolly said...

Hey

Glad to hear you are feeling better :)
Having the flu sucks.

What the hell, I'll join in this argument.
EQUALITY FOR ALL!!
*waves poster madly*

Nodders said...

Louise, waving posters of Johnny Depp in a pirate suit have nothing to do with equality =D However, I can't help but feel attracted to your, um, point. Yes, point...

keir said...

good call gordon, it does seem to me that males actually share there feelings more, or atleast among our little group

Stagestruckgal said...

well, you must be a very forward group, then. Guys I know and hang out with dont usually express their feelings, its more like, ummmmmm, a clam inside a shell.

Mmmmmmmmmm, Johnny Depp in PotC!!!

Niki said...

You need to encourage them to! I don't know many guys who just grunt and refuse to express, I'd get annoyed with them a little bit I think.
So yeah, uh, equality. I'm all for equality :-)